Last Trip on 2013 - Zoo Taiping !!!!! yeay !!!

yey! destinasi terakhir bagi tahun 2013 ialah...
ZOO TAIPING !!!!

sebagai memenuhi permintaan anak aku yang memang gedik nak ke zoo. konfius aku..apa ada kt zoo tu sampai gedik sangat nak p! so mari kita layan kan sahaja. biaq puas hati and hope next year masuk skolah adaaaa laa bende dia nak tulis dalam buku yea!

mcm biasa just bertolak pagi sabtu aroun 9:00am and direct breakfast cum lunch kat hentian Juru. (sorry mak mls nak masak kalau nak p berjalan) then terus perjalanan ke taiping. dalam kul 11:15am dah sampai...as usual orang ramai sebab parking full berdekatan zoo. dan agak menapak sedikit dari parking ke zoo. aku dpt parking kt parking lot Sek Sains. just nice to walk but better skit sebab anak kecik ku dah mau duduk dlm stroller bila berjalan. kan senang mak jemah nak jln vouge tanpa kene dukung makcik kenit ni... hahahhaa

tp masa aku p ni..zoo in under construction lah! kandang gajah tgh di renovate dan ada penambah-baikan di situ. tp agak kurang seronok laa... paling kecian aku tgn si camel tu.. maybe sebab hujan, mulut camel mcm bernanah jek. sian dia.. lain-lain mcm biasa je..zoo kot?? ko nak ada apa kat zoo. untuk budak2 seronok laa...

tp satu paling aku nak kompplen is the toilet kat dalam zoo tu.. please laa.... dah tau public holiday, u should have somebody to take care of it, kot! tak yah citer lah! tak lalu makan aku!
hope next time p, ada banyak perubahan lagi la...

sampai sini...tadaaaaa....
gambaq? nak kene boh ke? zoo kot???

bye!

Trip to Satun-Songkla-Hatyai 2013

meh..meh... aku nak kene gak update entry ni utk kegunaan di masa depan.. kenangan tu.. bukan senang dan belum tentu aku kembali ke sini...ini pun sebab parents ajak... kalau tak memang tak merasa laa percutian 'close-to-nature' aku...

travel tahun 2013 ni...aku plan join parents aku ke Satun, Thailand.  hujung Nov lepas (21-23 Nov). travel pakai van yg mai pickup kat rumah parents aku kat Alor Star terus ke Satun melalui pintu Wang Kelian. masa lebih kurang 2 jam jugak perjalanan dari AS-Satun. actually sebab musabab kami ikut pintu Wang Kelian ialah sebab tak ramai orang lalu sini. lagi pun selain dari hari Ahad, Wang Kelian adalah sangat sunyi, wokeh..tapi kalau ko pegi Wang Kelian di hari Ahad, sila laa hadap orang ramai yang bershopping .sebab hari Ahad, akan ada pasar pagi yang amat panjang yang bersambung dari sempadan Malaysia-sempadan Thailand. time ni pun pintu sempadan ni memang dibuka tanpa sempadan. kiranya ko masuk 40 kali pun, imigresen tak heran, sebab pasar ni... tapi kalau hari lain.. kene laa ngadap imigresen thailand, yea!

macam aku pagi tu, queue tak brapa panjang tp disebabkan aku sampai sama time dengan satu couple dari rusia yg jenis ada trak padang pasir tu.. so masa yang diambil sangat lama dalam 15minit jugak laa beratur.. lepas tu semuanya berjalan smooth saja. kena pulak van yang dinaiki selesa (12 seater) so tak de hal lah..kena pulak anak tak buat perangai.. so just nice saja perjalanan untuk kali ni..

perjalanan dari Wang Kelian ke Satun, kalau tak salah amik masa 3 jam macam tu hingga kami ke check-point pertama iaitu ke Pak Bara. kat Pak Bara kami menyeberangi sungai ke sebuah pulau yang dihuni oleh penduduk Islam. eh! tapi Satun penduduknya adalah Islam ok! Pulau ni aku memang tak igt nama apa... tetapi perjalanan dari jeti Pak Bara ke sini dalam lebih kurang 20minit menaiki bot. hihihiii...tu..macam kat bawah tu...sampai ke ke Pulau tersebut memanglah bermula pengalaman kembali ke zaman silam, ok!! Close-to-Nature beb! pic nyer maca kat bawah. suasana memang amatlah aman damai tak dengar apa... gila sunyi..siap kul 9 dah tidoq!!! nasib semua anak-anak pun senang tidoq due to letih... hahahaha...toilet?? hahahahaa.. nature kot!!! dah macam zaman 40-an di Malaysia dulu... hahahhaa... ni sebahagian gambar nyer..

bot yang membawa kami ke pulau tersebut..

balik kampung mak!!!

inilah teksi yang bawak kami ke chalet tersebut..ko penah naik kat M'sia??? hahahaha..

Kak Yati... orang kampung yg kelolakan pelancong yang melawat ke pulau tersebut. masakan mmg sedap!!

sedikit pemandangan chalet!

suasana sekeliling.. tenang sebab time ni 'air mati'

DIANA..JGN dok STALKER aku sgt !!!

dah! hang p buat keje...sibuk je masuk blog aku!!

Masalah Sakit Belakang

adeh..problem terbaru! aku sakit @ lenguh belakang sejak kebelakangan ini...
adakah sebab sejuk? sbb 24hrs dok dlm ekon kan? tapi seriyes kebas..ke sebab aku tak amik sebarang jamu? adoi.... mcm mana nak buat erk...takkan nak kene pegi klinik khas kot. tp lenguh gilaa...adakah sebab posisi tidur? almaklum bila letih..letak je kepala trus 'belayar'.. apa nak buat ah? aku ada search kt en google ni, tapi punca nyer takde plak aku kene... apa lagi punca nya ye?

info pasal sakit belakang: 
ni dr web Dr. Pakar iaitu Dr Anwar Arshad (http://drsendiurat.com/sakit-belakang)

Sakit Belakang

Masalah sakit belakang adalah biasa. Gaya hidup sedentari, postur tubuh yang buruk, berat badan yang berlebihan, cara bekerja yang tidak sihat serta tahap tekanan yang tinggi, semuanya menyumbang kepada masalah belakang.

Struktur Belakang Kita

Spina merupakan sokongan pusat sistem topangan badan.

• Vertebra - 24 tulang dihimpun satu di atas yang lain untuk membentuk spina.
• Cakera intervertebra - Lapik tulang rawan yang mengasingkan vertebra. Lapik ini bertindak sebagai penyerap hentak serta membolehkan spina bergerak ke beberapa arah. Setiap cakera mempunyai empulur yang lembut dan menyerupai agar-agar, dikelilingi oleh bulatan serabut.
• Sendi faset - Sendi-sendi kecil yang mengekalkan stabiliti spina dan membolehkan pergerakan.
• Korda spina - Satu kabel saraf bermula dari otak melalui saluran di belakang vertebra. Saraf ke tangan dan kaki bergerak melalui pembukaan di antara vertebra.
• Ligamen - Serabut yang kuat memberikan sokongan kepada sendi-sendi spina.
• Otot-otot - Banyak otot yang besar dan kecil menghasilkan pergerakan dan memberi sokongan kepada belakang. Kumpulan otot lain dari korset bahu, dada, pelvis, pinggang dan abdomen bergantung kepada ikatannya kepada spina supaya otot-otot ini boleh menggerakkan bahagian-bahagian lain tubuh.

Apakah Yang Menyebabkan Sakit Belakang?

Sebagaimana yang kita sedari, terdapat banyak struktur di bahagian belakang yang boleh menyebabkan kesakitan. Selalunya kesakitan ini bertambah secara beransur-ansur atau selang-seli dan puncanya tidaklah ketara. Bahagian belakang merupakan struktur yang rumit dan kesakitan boleh berlaku di sepanjang panjangnya. Paling sering, berlaku di tengkok dan bahagian bawah belakang.

• Ketegangan belakang

Ini merupakan sebab paling umum bagi sakit belakang. Tekanan yang abnormal, samada secara mendadak atau secara sedikit-sedikit, boleh merosakkan atau menegangkan otot, ligament atau sendi spina. Seliuhan belakang mungkin  akibat sentakan yang tidak disangka, misalnya jatuh, atau mengangkat sesuatu dengan cara yang tidak betul. Atau, postur yang buruk serta otot yang lemah boleh menyebabkan sakit belakang kronik.

• Kemerosotan cakera

Kemerosotan lapisan aur cakera menjadikan rata dan berbonjol. Cakera yang berbonjol akan meletakkan ketegangan ke ligament atau saraf sekeliling dan menyebabkan kesakitan.

• Artritis

Sama seperti sendi-sendi lain badan, sendi faset spina boleh menyebabkan osteoartritis. Mungkin terdapat kemerosotan di dalam sendi dan pertumbuhan tulang ataji (osteophytes), di sisi vertebra. Osteoartritis juga boleh menjejas vertebra, dikaitan dengan kemerosotan cakera. Ini merupakan penyebab paling umum artritis pada spina. Lebih jarang, beberapa bentuk artritis radang seperti “ankylosing spondylitis” yang membabitkan spina secara langsung.    

• Siatika

Saraf siatika bermula dari bahagian bawah belakang melintang ke punggung dan turun ke bawah di bahagian belakang kaki. Saraf-saraf ini boleh menjadi radang disebabkan oleh cakera yang bonjol atau sendi faset yang radang, dan kesakitan boleh berlaku di mana-mana tempat laluan mereka. Kesakitan merangkumi dari penyakit spina boleh berlaku di mana-mana anggota badan.

• Osteoporosis

Kehilangan kalsium daripada tulang-tulang spina mungkin mengakibatkan keruntuhan sebahagian daripada vertebra. Hal ini sering terjadi kepada wanita lepas menopaus.

• Tekanan emosi

Ketegangan otot yang bertambah biasanya akan memulakan penyakit belang yang menguja. Ketegangan otot yang berlanjutan akan mengakibatkan ketakseimbangan otot dan tekanan luarbiasa ke atas spina. Sakit belakang yang bertambah boleh dikaitkan dengan waktu-waktu tekanan.

Sakit Belakang Boleh Dicegah Dan Dikawal

• Sentiasa peka cara anda menggunakan belakang anda.
• Perbaiki postur anda dan cara anda bergerak apabila anda duduk, berdiri, bekerja dan bermain.      
• Masukkan senaman yang tetap sebagai sebahagian daripada gaya hidup anda.
• Kurangkan amaun tekanan di dalam hidup anda.
• Sakit belakang yang berterusan dan teruk mungkin boleh dibantu dengan rawatan oleh doktor atau pakar fisioterapi terlatih.

Penjagaan Belakang Anda

• Mengekalkan spina dalam posisi optimumnya.
• Meletakkan ketegangan yang paling kurang ke atas cakera vertebra, sendi-sendi dan otot-otot, serta tisu yang lembut.
• Membenarkan spina, kepala, tangan dan kaki bergerak dengan lebih efisien.
• Memperbaiki keupayaan pernafasan.
• Membolehkan organ dalaman untuk bekerja lebih efektif.
• Memperbaiki peredaran darah.
• Kelihatan dan merasa lebih baik.

Rancang Cara Dan Mengangkat

• Berdiri hampir dengan objek.
• Tegakkan objek dengan teguh, memegangnya berhampiran dengan tubuh anda.
• Menjaga bahagian belakang lurus dan angkat dengan meluruskan lutut anda.
• Elakkan gerakan yang berbelit, pusing dengan menggerakkan kaki anda.

Bekerja Dan Aktiviti-Aktiviti Harian Lain

• Sentiasa tegakkan belakang anda.
• Aturkan ruangan kerja anda supaya perkakas yang paling sering digunakan dicapai untuk mengelakkan banyak membongkok dan peregangan.
• Bercangkung atau melutut bekerja di paras yang rendah.
• Angkat objek dengan kedua tangan hampir kepada tubuh, elakkan membawa objek pada sebelah badan sahaja, jika boleh.
• Apabila menyapu, gunakan strok yang pendek, bengkokkan lutut dan gerakkan kaki  anda untuk mengelakkan jangkahan yang berlebihan.

 seriyes... takde lak aku jatuh ke apa? angkat berat tu maybe ada kot.. sebab seminggu skali aku dok angkat laki aku kan? kan? kan? puihhh !!!

apa laa punca ni...tak larat laa tiap2 hari rasa sakit belakang ni.... maybe should start pakai stoking time tido mlm and time kat opis kot... angin maybe? what' say u??

ke aku nak ke buat excersice? adoi laa tolonggg !!

 
 

Meroyan Shopaholic!

MONDAY BLUES !! MONDAY BLUES !!

Haa..korang penah meroyan sebab sesuatu sebab? aku rasa klu pompuan, meroyan dia mesti time nak shoppic tp tak boleh... haaa...aku la tu! yang slalu jadi macam tu... agak gila meroyan sebab nak shopping tapi pikir budget (sbb tak buat budget awai2, ni la padah nya!) trus meroyan sebab nak shopping tak boleh.

uishhh...napsu shopping pada masa ini adalah SANGAT TINGGI berbanding napsu kepada tempat lain... wuahahahaa... isk isk isk... ini klu dapat p swap skit ni..lega meroyan ni!

nak p k dak???

BUT ....

nak p ka dak?

p/ s: en sibikos... awek u nak swap skiiitttt ja....bley yea....
terima kasih!!!!

UPSR oh UPSR!

haaa.semlm result UPSR kuaq kan? ermm...family aku tak yang amik UPSR kot. nnt time anak aku dh takde exam UPSR ni..

bangun pagi ni tg kt FB, ada entry menarik pasal anak tokei ayam dapat kete mini cooper sebab dapat 5A...perhh..hebat! 5A dpt mini cooper, 8A dapat jet peribadi kata nyer... memang HEBAT rakyat Malaysia kan? kan? kan? aku dulu dapat result baik pun.. paling hebat ialah makan KFC.. huhuhu... sekarang.. anak-anak aku boleh kata tiap2 minggu mkn KFC.. kelas tul kan? anak zaman sekarang agak mewah sebab mak bapak nyer memang berusaha giller kot nak ikut arus zaman. tul dak? zaman aku dulu, kalau dapat 5A, mak ayah belikan beskal pun dah cukup havoc! habis satu taman pusing nek beskal tu. zaman la ni, anak aku dapat beskal umur 6 thn sebab pencapaian baik dlm exam final kat taska, trus dapat beskal..tp naik nyer, ada la sebulan 5-6 kali kot! punya laa hebat! skit dia tak heran mak bapak dia beli beskal... adoi laa... perubahan zaman kan??

sebab tu zaman sekarang bersepah budak-budak bijak..semua pakat score 5A, kalau tak dpt 5A tu kira koman la...tul dak? apa pun..5A tu bagi aku sebagai permulaan & jadi batu lonjakan kepada budak2 untuk terus score dlm PMR dan next-next exam. tp pastikan pencapaian UPSR dapat dikekalkan, jangan pulak UPSR bagussss sgt..mai PMR, sedikit low.. mai SPM...lower pulak..macam tu memang tak baik kan.. (mcm aku la tu!)

apa pun TAHNIAH kepada ibu bapa yang anaknyer score 5A. tahniah kerana berjaya mendidik anak dengan baik. anak aku? apa cer? nasib tak turun kelas..kalau idak... jgn harap laa thn depan dpt ngadap tv tiap2 hari... huhuhuuu..memang ko hadap laa tuisyen siang malam... huhuhu....tp aku dulu selamba badak je main... hahhah sebab tu tak penah score! hahahahhahahaa

tadaaa... byee !
 

All about marriage !

"It's all about marriage"

wauahahahaha....tgk tajuk...tgk tajukk...hihihihii..
bukan apa...ari ni tergodek kat google & ternampak article pasal marriage.. but of course laa every marriage has it's own problems. sebab itu ada mengatakan "perkahwinan itu ibarat satu perjudian". so kalau ada yang kata perkahwinan nya TIADA masalah/gelora hati etc etc... BERSYUKURLAH kerana belom menerima UJIAN dari ALLAH SWT.

tetambah yang baru berkahwin... sentiasalah bersabar kerana 5 tahun pertama perkahwinan merupakan saat sukar, dimana kedua-dua masih dalam proses mengenali diri masing-masing (even dh bercinta 5 thn pun) sebabnyer...bila dah hidup sekali baru setiap pekung perangai pasangan dikenali..hanya SABAR dan DOA merupakan jalan terbaik.
jom kita tgk puisi ni: -

Mari ku khabarkan
perkahwinan itu ibarat sungai
dalam jernih ada keruhnya
dalam tenang ada kocaknya
dalam perlahan ada derasnya.


Mari kukhabarkan
perkahwinan itu ibarat gunung
dalam tinggi ada rendahnya
dalam curam ada landainya
dalam keras ada lembutnya.


Mari kukhabarkan
perkahwinan itu ibarat langit
dalam biru ada mendungnya
dalam bulan ada bintangnya
dalam konkrit ada mujaratnya.


Mari kukhabarkan
perkahwinan itu ibarat laut
dalam mutiara ada karangnya
dalam ombak ada pasirnya
dalam fauna ada floranya.


Pun begitu perkahwinan itu paling indah..
tatkala bersungaikan kesabaran..
bergunungkan keikhlasan..
berlangitkan kerahmatan, berlautkan keimanan...


Nukilan : Zulkifli Mohd Top 

kan? kan? so biasa laa problem dalam perkahwinan kan..but lets us see any message how to ensure our marriage life is ini good way..jom !!!


No 1:  20 Marriage Tips Everyone Needs to Know
http://www.viralnova.com/20-marriage-tips/ 

1.  Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love. 
2. PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there. 
3. FALL IN LOVE OVER and OVER and OVER again. You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.
4. ALWAYS SEE THE BEST in her. Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife.
5. IT’S NOT YOUR JOB TO CHANGE OR FIX HER… your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not.
6. TAKE FULL ACCOUNTABILITY for your own emotions: It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.
7. NEVER BLAME your wife If YOU get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. They are YOUR emotions, and your responsibility. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed. You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all of your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them… when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were.
8. Allow your woman to JUST BE. When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to HOLD HER and let her know it’s ok. Let her know that you hear her, and that she’s important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean. The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and unjudging she will trust you and open her soul to you… DON’T RUN-AWAY WHEN SHE’S UPSET. Stand present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere. Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion.
9. BE SILLY… don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier.
10. FILL HER SOUL EVERYDAY… learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED. Ask her to create a list of 10 THINGS that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority everyday to make her feel like a queen.
11. BE PRESENT. Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is.
12. BE WILLING TO TAKE HER SEXUALLY, to carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she can trust you fully.
13. DON’T BE AN IDIOT…. And don’t be afraid of being one either. You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make. You’re not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid.
14. GIVE HER SPACE… The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing…. (okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point. Tell her to take time for herself, ESPECIALLY after you have kids. She needs that space to renew and get re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.)
15. BE VULNERABLE… you don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.
16. BE FULLY TRANSPARENT. If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING… Especially those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don’t know i she will like what she finds… Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. DROP THE MASK… If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be.
17. NEVER STOP GROWING TOGETHER… The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards.
18. DON’T WORRY ABOUT MONEY. Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win.
19. FORGIVE IMMEDIATELY and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.
20. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. In the end, this is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure.

In the end MARRIAGE isn’t about Happily ever after. It’s about work. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. Through that work, the happiness will come.

Marriage is life, and it will bring ups and downs. Embracing all of the cycles and learning to learn from and love each experience will bring the strength and perspective to keep building, one brick at a time.  

These are lessons I learned the hard way. These are lessons I learned too late.
But these are lessons I am learning and committed in carrying forward. Truth is, I LOVED being married, and in time, I will get married again, and when I do, I will build it with a foundation that will endure any storm and any amount of time.
If you are reading this and find wisdom in my pain, share it those those young husbands whose hearts are still full of hope, and with those couples you may know who may have forgotten how to love. One of those men may be like I was, and in these hard earned lessons perhaps something will awaken in him and he will learn to be the man his lady has been waiting for.
The woman that told him ‘I do’, and trusted her life with him, has been waiting for this man to step up.
If you are reading this and your marriage isn’t what you want it to be, take 100% responsibility for YOUR PART in marriage, regardless of where your spouse is at, and commit to applying these lessons while there is time.
MEN- THIS IS YOUR CHARGE : Commit to being an EPIC LOVER. There is no greater challenge, and no greater prize. Your woman deserves that from you. Be the type of husband your wife can’t help but brag about.



no 2: 10 Marriage Tips Every Wife Needs to Hear
 http://eighthrising.wordpress.com/2013/10/28/10-marriage-tips-every-wife-needs-to-hear/ 

1.  Respect your husband.  - Notice how it doesn’t say “Respect your husband if he has earned it”. A man’s greatest need in this world is to be respected, and the person he desires that respect from the most is his wife.  The trap that we’ve all been ensnared by is that they only deserve our respect when they earn it. Yes, we want our husbands to make decisions that will ultimately garner our respect, but the truth is that your husband is a human being. A human being who makes mistakes. This is the man that YOU have chosen to walk alongside you for the rest of your life, and to lead your family and he needs to be respected for that quality alone. Take it from me – when respect is given even when he doesn’t deserve it, it will motivate him to earn it. That doesn’t mean you pretend that his choices are good ones when they aren’t. Things like that still need to be communicated, but you can flesh out your differences WITH RESPECT. It makes all the difference in the world to him.
2. Guard your heart.  - The grass is not greener on the other side. Do not believe the lie that with a slimmer figure, a higher salary, a faster car, or a bigger house, you will be a happier woman. The world is full of things and people that will serve as reminders that you don’t have the best of the best, but it’s simply not true. Live the life you’ve been blessed with, and BE THANKFUL. I get that we all have struggles, and there are even times when I would love 1,000 more square feet of house to live in, but square feet is not fulfilling – relationships are. Guard your heart from things and people that will try to convince you that your life or your husband is not good enough.  There will always be bigger, faster, stronger, or shinier – but you’ll never be satisfied with more until you’re fulfilled with what you have now.
3. God, husband, kids…in that order.  - I know this isn’t a popular philosophy, especially among mothers, but hear me out. It’s no secret that my faith is of utmost importance, so God comes first in my life no matter what. But regardless of your belief system, your husband should come before your kids. Now unless you’re married to someone who is abusive  (in which case, I urge you to seek help beyond what my blog can give you), no man in his right mind would ask you to put your kids aside to serve his every need while neglecting them. That’s not what this means. When you board an airplane, the flight attendants are required to go over emergency preparedness prior to takeoff. When explaining the part about how to operate the oxygen mask, passengers are instructed to first put the mask on themselves before putting it on their small child. Is that because they think you are more important than your kids? Absolutely not. But you cannot effectively help your child if you can’t breathe yourself. The same holds true with marriage and parenting. You cannot effectively parent your children if your marriage is falling apart. Take it from me – I tried. There will also come a time when your kids will leave the house to pursue their dreams as adults. If you have not cultivated a lasting relationship with your spouse, you will have both empty nests and empty hearts.
4. Forgive.  - No one is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes. If you make forgiveness a habit – for everything from major mistakes to little annoyances (every day, I have to forgive my husband for leaving the wet towel on the bathroom counter ) – you will keep resentment from growing.
5. Over-communicate.  - I used to have a bad habit of not speaking my feelings. I played the standard “You should know why I’m mad” game, and that’s just downright unfair. Men are not wired like women, and they DON’T always know that they’ve been insensitive. I’m still growing in this area, and there are often times when my husband has to pry something out of me, but I’m trying to remember that I need to just communicate how I feel.
6. Schedule a regular date night.  - This one isn’t new, but it’s very important. Never stop dating your spouse.  Even if you can’t afford dinner and a movie (which we seldom can), spending some regular one-on-one time with your spouse is essential. Don’t talk about bills, or schedules, or the kids. Frankie and I often daydream about our future, or plan our dream vacation. We connect emotionally and often learn something new about each other – even after four years.
7. Never say the “D Word”.  - If you’re gonna say it, you better mean it. Plain and simple, threatening divorce is not fighting fair. I did this a lot in my previous marriages. I’m not proud of it, but I learned better. I was hurting deeply, and I wanted to hurt back, but it never helped me feel better.
8. Learn his love language.  - Everyone has a love language. The way you perceive love is often different from the way your spouse perceives love. Does he like words of affirmation, or does he respond better when you give him gifts? Whatever his love language is – learn it and USE IT.  Edited to add: If you are unfamiliar with the principles behind love languages, you can learn more about it here.
9. Never talk negatively about him.  - I learned this lesson the hard way too. If you’re going through a difficult time in your marriage and you need advice, see a counselor. Family counseling is a great tool, but try to remember that your family members and friends are not the most objective people to give advice. The argument they are hearing is one-sided and they often build up negative feelings toward your spouse, which usually doesn’t subside once you and your husband have gotten past it. Protect his image with those that you’re close with and seek help from those that can actually be objective.  News flash, ladies – your mother cannot be objective!
10. Choose to love.  - There are times in a marriage that you may wake up and not feel in love anymore. Choose to love anyway. There are times when you may not be attracted to your husband anymore. Choose to love anyway. Marriage is a commitment. In sickness and health, in good times and in bad. Those vows are sacred. They don’t say “if you have bad times”. They say “in good times AND in bad”, implying that there WILL be bad times. It’s inevitable. So choose to love anyway. He’s worth it.

Petua Memagari Diri Daripada Sihir atau Syaitan

salam Jumaat. Hari yang penuh keberkatan dan kesejukan hari ni...sebab seawal jam 5:00 pg, ujan turun mencurah-curah...membuatkan malas nak bangun pagi. nasib keje makan gaji... ada rules nak kene follow... klu housewife tadi... ble lajak tido nih ! hik hik hik..

arini time kemas meja opis, terjumpa 1 article yang aku baca mengenai sihir. automatically  teingat kat sorg opismate citer pasal die p berurut kat pusat rawatan islam then pusat tu cakap ada 'bende' dok kat balakang dia... pas berurut trus rasa ok. sebelum tu asyik lah nak gado ngan suami, tak de mood ngan suami dan sebagainya lah..

bende macam ni, kita sebagai orang Islam, nak percaya sepenuhnya pun tak boleh dan tak percaya pun, tak boleh juga.. sebab memang kita tahu ada makhluk lain selain dari kita yang dijadikan Allah, berada dimuka bumi ini kan?? BUT...jangan laaa TERLAMPAU TAKSUB kan.... tapi tak salah kalau kita berjaga-jaga untuk menghindari perkara itu terjadi kepada kita.. 

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Di bawah ini dinyatakan cara2 atau amalan yang boleh di lakukan untuk memagar diri anda dari perbuatan jahat tukang sihir atau pengamal Ilmu Hitam.?  

Sihir mungkin tidak mengenal siapa anda.Ia boleh menyerang anda.. ketahuilah cara memagari diri anda dari sihir dan gangguan syaitan.  

Pagar Pertama (1) - 

Makan Tamar 'Ajwah dan Tamar Madinah

Amalkan memakan tamar (kurma) 'Ajwah dan jika boleh makan bersama dengan Tamar Madinah. Sekiranya anda tidak boleh mendapatkan kedua-dua jenis Tamar tersebut, makanlah apa-apa jenis tamar yang ada supaya menepati sabda Rasulullaahi Shollallaahu A`laihi Wasallam, yang berbunyi:

"Barangsiapa yang memakan tujuh biji tamar 'Ajwah, dia tidak akan mendapat sebarang kemudaratan racun atau sihir yang terkena pada hari itu".

(HR Al Bukhori)

Pagar Kedua (2) - 

Berwuduk sebelum tidur,

Sihir tidak akan memberi sebarang kesan terhadap seseorang muslim yang mempunyai wuduk. Setiap muslim yang berwuduk akan sentiasa dikawal ketat oleh para Malaikat sebagaimana diperintahkan oleh ALLAH Subhaanahu Wa Ta`ala, kepada mereka.  

Sabda Rasulullahi Shollallaahu A`laihi Wasallam,: Ertinya: "Sucikanlah jasad-jasad ini mudah-mudahan

ALLAH

 akan menyucikan kamu. Kerana sesungguhnya tiada seorang pun dari mereka yang bersuci terlebih d

ahulu sebelum tidur, melainkan ada bersamanya seorang Malaikat. Malaikat tersebut tidak akan pernah terlalai walau pun sedetik untuk mengucapkan doa: 'Ya ALLAH! Ampunilah dosa hambaMu ini kerana dia telah tidur dalam keadaan bersuci'"  

(HR At Tabraaniy dengan sanad yang baik)

Pagar Ketiga (3) - 

Mengambil berat tentang sholat berjemaah

Mengambil berat tentang sholat berjemaah akan menjadikan seseorang muslim bebas serta aman dari gangguan syaitan.

Bersikap sambil lewa terhadap sholat berjemaah menyebabkan syaitan akan mengambil peluang untuk mendampingi mereka. 

Apabila selalu berdampingan, lama kelamaan ia akan berjaya merasuk, menyihir atau melakukan kejahatan lain.  

Mengikut riwayat Abu Hurairah r.a., Rasulullahi Shollallaahu A`laihi Wasallam, telah bersabda :  

Maksudnya: *Mana-mana kampung mahupun kawasan kawasan hulu yang tidak mendirikan sholat berjemaah meskipun penduduknya cuma tiga orang, nescaya akan didampingi oleh syaitan. Oleh itu hendaklah dirikan sholat berjemaah. Sesungguhnya serigala akan memakan kambing-kambing yang menyendiri dari puaknya.*

(HR Abu Daud dengan sanad yang baik)

Pagar Keempat (4) -

Mendirikan Sholat Tahajjud untuk memagarkan diri dari sihir

Bangunlah mengerjakan sholat malam dan janganlah mempermudah- mudahkannya.  

Sifat mempermudah- mudahkan bangun bersholat malam boleh memberi ruang kepada syaitan untuk menguasai diri seseorang itu. Apabila syaitan telah mampu menguasai diri seseorang, maka dirinya adalah tak ubah seperti bumi yang ketandusan akibat kesan tindakbalas hasil perlakuan syaitan tersebut.

Ibnu Mas'ud r.a. telah berkata: Rasulullahi Shollallaahu A`laihi Wasallam, pernah diberitahu tentang perihal seorang lelaki yang tidur hingga ke Subuh dengan tidak mengerjakan solat malam, maka Rasulullah saw pun bersabda:

Maksudnya: "Sesungguhnya syaitan telah kencing di dalam telinganya"  

(HR Al Bukhori dan Muslim)

Pagar Kelima (5) - 

Membaca doa perlindungan apabila masuk di dalam tandas

Tandas adalah tempat kotor dan merupakan rumah bagi syaitan. Oleh itu ia akan cuba sedaya upaya menggunakan kesempatan yang ada untuk menguasai seseorang muslim setiap kali orang itu masuk ke tandas. Di dalai sebuah buku seorang mangsa sihir telah melapurkan bahawa dia pernah memasuki tandas dengan tidak membaca doa perlindungan. Seketika kemudian ditelah dirasuk oleh syaitan.

Apabila Rasulullahi Shollallaahu A`laihi Wasallam, mahu memasuki tandas, baginda akan membaca doa perlindungan dengan berkata : Ertinya: "Dengan nama Allaah. Ya  

ALLAH

  Sesungguhnya aku berlindung denganMu dari sebarang kekotoran dan gangguan syaitan".  

(Riwayat Al Bukhori dan Muslim)

Maksudnya adalah berlindung dari gangguan syaitan-syaitan jantan atau betina. 

Pagar Keenam (6) -

Memagar isteri selepas selesai akad nikah

Selepas majlis akad nikah, pada malam pengantin sebelum memulakan adab-adab berpengantin yang lain, hendaklah suami meletakkan tangan kanannya di atas ubun-ubun kepala isterinya sambil berdoa :

"Ya  

ALLAH

  aku memohon kepadaMu kebaikannya dan kebaikan yang telah Engkau selubungi keatasnya, dan aku berlindung dari keburukannya dan Keburukan yang telah Engkau selubungi ke atasnya. Ya 

ALLAH

 berkatilah isteriku ini ke atasku dan lindungilah dirinya dari segala keburukan perbuatan orang-orang yang dengki, dan perbuatan tukang sihir apabila dia telah melakukan sihir dan dan perbuatan orang-orang yang suka melakukan tipu daya"   

(Riwayat Abu Daud dan menurut Al Albaaniy sanadnya baik)

Pagar Ketujuh (7) - 

Berwuduk sebelum tidur,membaca ayat-ayat Al Kursi dan berzikir kepada Allaah sehingga terlelap

Dalam satu hadits shohih telah menceritakan bahawa syaitan telah berkata kepada Abu Hurairah:

*Barangsiapa yang membaca ayat-ayat Al Kursi sebelum tidur, dirinya sentiasa di dalam peliharaan 

ALLAH

 manakala syaitan sekali-kali tidak mampu mendekatinya sehinggalah ke waktu pagi*

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